Mother: our advice to not forget yourself!
How do you develop good habits from the start, as soon as you are pregnant and/or when the baby is born?
During pregnancy, we are very closely monitored medically, but in terms of affects and emotions, it is a big vacuum. When we so need to feel supported and accompanied, a caring presence that asks us “and if not you, how are you?” ”. Good habits to adopt would be to put into words what we feel, and to identify what resources us, what we do not want to let go of, what deserves to be spent time on it such as walking, sleeping, painting or going for a run, making time for two to continue talking to each other as a couple... It is specific to each one, but it is essential because our identity is questioned when a kid. You always need to refocus, to know who you are. Once again, this is what we want to offer women in the My Louves experience: a caring place, a “safe place” to exchange between mothers in speaking circles and live with people trained to listen to future and young mothers.
Why is it important not to forget yourself when you become a mom?
Whether it's the first time or the third time, the arrival of a child requires so much availability and energy from us, and we so want to do well, that we naturally put ourselves in the background. It is obvious that you forget yourself a bit when you become a mother, but you always gain by keeping a place for yourself. Our well-being is reflected in the way we welcome our child and how we live the most complicated moments: fatigue, tears, the body after delivery... For us, it is a state of mind to have from the moment of pregnancy: find pleasure, listen to each other, communicate as a couple about what we are going through, stay tuned to what we feel, prepare ourselves without losing ourselves. It is this concern for the well-being of women that guided the entire My Louves project: a program that invites you to listen to yourself during pregnancy and the postpartum period.
What do you do to think about yourself when you are alone or when you don't have help?
This is all too often the case, postpartum, because the second parent's leave, even longer, lasts only 25 days, and even more so if you are a single mom. However, we ask ourselves a thousand questions when we become a mother, about our baby and about ourselves, we need to be surrounded. We interviewed psychologists about this, and they are quite reassuring: if you are a single parent, you can find in a person you trust the resources to cope, to be listened to and supported. Midwife, friend, sister, brother, brother, caregivers in PMI, you can also contact competent people. In the My Louves program, we connect our members with psychologists specialized in motherology, consultants with degrees in perinatal psychology, childcare providers or breastfeeding consultants, and even coaches to provide concrete tools for personal development and organization. All these good fairies are precious to allow young mothers to trust each other and to find their way of doing things, without forgetting each other...
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Thanks to Marine for these valuable tips!
The Charlie Crane Team
